Talk-2-Me: Happy Children's Day

Rahama Obadak
Marketing & Comms, Flexisaf

We believe everyday should be a happy day for a child. They deserve it. As they grow, they need to constantly remember these happy moments to help them pull through the challenges of adulthood. Though we celebrate our children everyday, we can still join in the fun to celebrate them together this day. After all the more, the merrier.

So, here’s our gift to the kids - for you to make everyday a happy one for the kids. They are;

7 helpful tips to keep in mind while relating with kids

1, Employ empathy: Always put yourself in a kid’s shoes. Especially if they are hurt or worried about something. If you were the one, what would you be feeling and how would you like the adult you are relating with to treat you? That would go a long way in helping you decide how to handle the situation at hand properly.

2, Make an effort to an understand them: Whether you are a parent, teacher or a trusted adult companion, make an effort to understand basic child psychology. There are tons of credible sources you might want to explore.

This is because when you understand how the mind of a child works at a certain age,

you will most likely understand why they act the way they do.

For example, psychological studies show some reasons why kids cry so much.

3, Don’t yell, explain: Studies indicate that, yelling at a child’s does a lot of damage to their self esteem. Rather than yelling at a child, explain to them first why they shouldn’t be doing what they are doing. Even though kids can be difficult to handle, studies show that kids with gentle guardians who explained to them before employing any strictness became more responsible adults. They became more sociable adults.

4, Motivate them: Always motivate them especially when they are about taking a difficult task. So, for example say a child is anxious about an exam they are about to write. You can motivate them by saying “Oh come on junior, just read hard and go give it your best.” Remember success is on the other side of fear. Unless they conquer the fear, they can never really give it their best shot.

5, Appreciate them: Appreciate them with proper language. While appreciating them helps them appreciate themselves, you need to ensure the use of proper language to avoid pride. Instead of saying “You are such a guru in math”, you may say “the way you tackled that math exam was really great. Keep it up”. It is better to praise the action than the person because, it sends a message to their brain that such actions are always expected.

6, Be Authoritative, Not Authoritarian: While authoritarians want to exert total control over a child, “authoritatives” tend to be more consistent but gentle and more discipline oriented. Authoritarians often respond to misbehavior with punishment, more so in the typical African setting, especially corporal punishment. While this gives you control while they are young, it might grow into resentment when they grow up, and resentment could bring about anger management issues as adults. Bear this mind:

While an Authoritarian is feared, An Authoritative is respected. Lifelong respect.

7, Be trustworthy: There is a natural tendency for kids to trust any caring adult while they are very young, but remaining worthy as they begin to develop common sense is a big deal. So, if for example you are a class teacher of grade 3, and a child has some very pressing issues like peer pressure but they are scared of talking to Mum and Dad, they can only confide in you if their 8-year old self trusts you. They can trust you if they know you will advise them on what to do instead of telling their parents. They can also trust you if they sense that genuine concern in you.

SAF Talk2Me believes that #ForEveryChild should be a happy life. Make that possible by employing those tips and bring out the genius in every child. At FlexiSAF, our passion to transform education is real. And we believe one of such ways to transform education is the valuing of emotions and prioritizing on Social Emotional Learning and Guidance and Counselling.

What other tips do you think we should employ to bring out the best in every child? Do share with us in the comments section. Or better still send an email to

Hesitate not, for I am so eager to hear from you!